If you’ve ever been in a relationship that ended abruptly or unexpectedly, you probably know what it feels like to obsess over your former crush. While this is a normal thing, it is important to remain firmly aware of the present moment, and not get to caught up in the past. If you’ve ever found yourself obsessing over an ex, here are a few great tools that I used in my single days to get me back on track:
1. Exercise. Every time you are tempted to call/text/email/check the phone–do 15 jumping jacks and push ups.
2. Learn. Pick up a book and read 15 pages.
3. Introspect. Write in a diary or journal about what you’d like to say to this person, and WHY you feel the way you do about them.
NOTE: Is it the law of scarcity at work, are you dicknotized/whipped/infatuated, or is it REAL love and respect? If so, why are they dodging you?
4. Speak Up. Create an email address that is dedicated to the object of your obsession, and send an email to THAT address, not theirs. Wait 24 hours and if you still feel the same, then send it, ONLY if every single word still applies.
5. Observe. Begin to notice how many emails/texts/calls they’ve sent you versus how many times you’ve obsessed about them. Do you notice a pattern of YOU making all of the effort while they give/make none? Then this is a ONE WAY relationship, and you are getting played. Proceed to exit stage left.
6. Move onward. Notice your emerging and extra fly body (compliments of #1), your feelings of emotional freedom and self-awareness (compliments of #2 & 3), and your new-found independence. Get out of the house and start doing things for YOU that you enjoy. Meet new people, and have new experiences.
Darlings, stop obsessing by getting a clear perspective of what is really going on versus what you WISH was going on. Pour your time, love, energy, and attention back into yourself and ONLY those who pour into you. Life is about reciprocity, don’t allow those who add no value to your life to take up space in your head and heart.